There are many reasons why marriage relationships fizzle. According to Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), the most common reason for couples to lose their passion is because of a negative cycle that over time takes over their relationship. In this negative cycle, the most common dynamic is the pursuer-withdrawer. The pursuer partner is usually critical, and the withdrawing partner is usually defensive. Lots of married couples get stuck in this destructive pattern. Couples who want to reignite love in their marriage need to be aware of this cycle and fight it together. They can go to a certified Emotionally Focused Therapist who can help them overcome this negative cycle. In my practice as a marriage and family therapist in Dubai and certified Emotionally Focused Therapist in Dubai, I frequently work with couples who struggle with this negative cycle, and I help them find ways to rekindle their passion for each other. Marriage counselling, couple’s therapy and relationship coaching all help couples learn new ways to reignite love in a marriage. Below are five ways to reignite love in a marriage:
1. Emotional Safety
As a Family Therapist and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, I usually explain to my clients that it is important to foster emotional intimacy. This means that you need to meet your partner’s emotional needs. It also means you need to express clearly your own emotional needs in a loving way. Couples need to be emotionally attuned to each other and let go of their defences.
2. Physical Intimacy
Remember that you are the same couple who at the beginning of the marriage enjoyed great sexual and physical intimacy and that you have it in you to be that way again. Make sure to hold hands more often, kiss each other and hug as much as possible. Give your partner a massage or a back rub. Such pleasurable and affectionate physical touches help you become more sexually intimate.
3. Quality Time
Spend quality time with your partner where you are affectionate and caring. Let go of your resentments towards each other and instead spend time showing love and appreciation for one another. Let the time you are staying together be full of genuine words of affirmation and compliments towards each other.
4. Curiosity
Function from a place of curiosity with your partner. Try to listen to your partner to understand them and fulfil their needs. Try to get to know your partner and show interest in their world. Be curious about your partner’s sexual needs and consider sex a means to get to understand your partner more.
5. Change Your Routine
Get out of your comfort zone and change your habits together. Break the routine and do exciting things in an unpredictable way. For example, if you are used to spending the weekend doing specific things together, change the routine and think outside of the box to do something different.
If You Would Like to Reignite Love in Your Marriage, Book Your Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy Now
If you would like to do marriage counselling, family therapy or individual therapy to rekindle the passion in your relationship, now is the time to be proactive and get engaged in couples counselling and couples’ therapy. Marriage and family therapy help you strengthen your relationship with your partner and your family members. Marriage and family therapy also helps you become better partners and parents for your children. It is essential to understand that involving an experienced, caring, and non-judgmental couples’ therapist can make a huge difference. As a Marriage and Family Therapist based in Dubai, I work with couples from all over the world to overcome the challenges they face in their relationship. Marriage counselling in Dubai and Couples therapy in Dubai is incredibly effective. If you are searching for a professional and a highly qualified marriage counselor and couple’s therapist, an ICEEFT certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist (EFT) in Dubai, to help you get through your difficult times, please reach out to me. I meet my clients face to face in my office in Dubai or do marriage and family counselling online via zoom. If you are anywhere in the world and feel like speaking to a Family and Couples Counselor and doing couples therapy at the convenience of your home, please contact me at ds@www.daliasheiha.com or WhatsApp me on 00971502369395.